Saturday, October 27, 2007

Does Having Children Make People Happier?

I typed this question in Google and found this article:

Parenthood Does Not Make People Happier

It has occasionally been pointed out to me that my problems are stupid, and that I should have kids, so that I'll have real things to worry about. It has also been pointed out to me when I'm feeling a sense of ennui, that I should have children and it will be cured. Evidence seems to be to the contrary.

A person I know who complains a lot about how much anguish her children have caused her is always asking me about when I'll have kids and why I don't have kids yet. I'm always tempted to say back to her, "Well, you make it sound so great, I should really think harder about having them."

I'm not close to too many children. My older brother's kids don't seem to like me much. On the other hand, my husband's brother's children love me. They are wonderful, loving, brave, curious, thoughtful people. They are also selfish, competitive, loud, mean, and demanding. All in all though, if, God forbid, anything were to ever happen to their parents, I would adopt them without a second's thought and love them until I died. But, if I knew I would have kids just like them, would I?

Assuming the study is true, is it better to not have children? An argument to the contrary:

In Memoriam XXVII - Alfred Lord Tennyson

I envy not in any moods
The captive void of noble rage,
The linnet born within the cage,
That never knew the summer woods:
I envy not the beast that takes
His license in the field of time,
Unfetter’d by the sense of crime,
To whom a conscience never wakes;

Nor, what may count itself as blest,
The heart that never plighted troth
But stagnates in the weeds of sloth;
Nor any want-begotten rest.

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
’Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Everyone Be Nice To Me

I'm in a super sensitive, paranoid, PMS-y, should-lock-myself-in-a-padded-room-for-the-next-few-days-kind-of-mood. I could elaborate over and over again about the weird interactions I've had from people, but it would break my rules of using my blog as a rant. Over and over and over again. People are mean! Or I'm too sensitive. That is probably it.

Here's a link to a blog about how I felt about the same as I do about a year ago:

How to Eat Fried Worms

It sure is weird when my seasonal moods line up exactly by the day. In some ways, it is comforting. All this hullabaloo is about nothing but the weather.

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Quote of the Day

"Because true conservatives are pessimists, they are happier than liberals, for three reasons. First, pessimists are rarely surprised. Second, when they are wrong they are delighted to be so. Third, pessimists do not put their faith in princes - in government. They understand that happiness is a function of fending for oneself. Happiness is an activity; it is inseparable from the pursuit of happiness."

- George F. Will

This quote was on my Starbucks cup a while ago. Do you think it is true? I wonder... I'm usually a bit happier if I have a goal I am excited about. Cynically, sometimes I think it is because I fool myself into thinking when I'm done with my goal, I'll be happy. Sometimes there is a momentary celebration, but also a letdown until I find I've moved onto the next thing.


I wonder in what sense he means that pessimists are happier than optimists. Could you pursue happiness if you were pessimistic about the outcome of your goal?

Friday, October 19, 2007

Elwood's Hit Play


My brother is a professional actor. He was recently in the play "Snow Falling on Cedars." Here is a link to a rave review:

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/thearts/2003908498_snow28.html

Of course his name isn't really Elwood. You'll figure out who he is if you know my real last name, which I'm sure anyone reading does.

Hooray for my feet!

I had a podiatrist appointment yesterday. He looked at my feet and told me I have nice high arches, but tight calves from swimming that make my feet flatten when I stand up. He gave me a brace to wear at night, ace bandage-y type braces for my feet, and instructions for stretching and icing. He said he could get me running soon enough. This made me happy. I asked him if he thought I could run a marathon, and he said he couldn't say for sure, but his philosophy is to do what he could to help people achieve their goals. I picked him because he is runner and triathlete. I figured he'd understand. He had all kinds of cool quotes on his wall, like the one on Jocelyn's website "What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?" and "Sing like no one is listening, dance like no one is watching, and love like it's never going to hurt."

Yeah!!! Take that, P.T. who told me I could never run more than a 10K.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Blogs I Subscribe To

This is a list of blogs I subscribe to. They are mostly blogs of people I know, although many I hardly know at all. Some of them are just blogs I found by accident. Three of them are pretty much never posted to.

Jocelyn's Blog Aspiring Pro Triathlete I swim with. Sweet person, and an amazing athlete.
Jocelyn's Other Blog
Oxy's Blog - Can't see it unless you are her MySpace friend
Rose's Blog - My Sister-In-Law. Ditto about the MySpace thing
Camille's Blog - Friend of mine who used to live in Flip Flop. Mentioned more than once on this blog.
Emily's Blog - Baby Blog of my Flip Flop Master's lane mate, Princey and her husband Ark
Princey Pie - Rarely updated, but I subscribe just in case
Celery Queen's Blog - Found this by accident while looking for Maui Channel results. A swimmer/triathlete from SoCal
Follow Me To France - Jessica's Blog. Found this by accident while trying to find out Water Temp info at Lake Del Valle. She an inspiring swimmer with an oh-so-close and remarkable English Channel attempt.
Sarah's Blog - Swimmer at MM. Coach sent out a link. She swims a lane up from me, but we have never spoken, despite the fact that I've commented and complimented her on her blog several times. The internet sure is weird. Or maybe it is just me.
Leadership Is Art - In the profile of someone who commented on Sarah's blog. I argued with a comment he made on her blog, and never got a response back. Have seen him around, but never spoken to him.
Pinetoast - Nice guy I know, good friend of mutual friends
Rosa Sinensis - Wife of Pinetoast, also good friend of mutual friends
TDAnotes - MM swimmer. Only one post. Found through Sarah's blog. Nice guy who introduced himself to me. A little less internet weirdness than usual.
Who Needs a Running Skirt - MM Swimmer. Cool person who started her own running skirt company.

I found out I have 5 Google subscribers. I know one is me, one is Raybon, and Princey Pie told me she would subscribe, but who are you other two people? I always out myself when I read someone's blog. I'd appreciate the same courtesy.

Happy

I know you are all on the edge of your seat wondering why I haven't been blogging. I've been managing my time better, and using my little downtime for reading and relaxing. I haven't felt the urge to blog so much. Tahoe sort of possessed both me and my blog, and everything else seems less exciting. My life is kind of boring, but I'm not bored at all, if that makes any sense. I feel happy, confident, and peaceful.